One: Don’t let doubt in
Doubt is a dangerous thing, it can start as a small
inconspicuous thought but can snowball into much more. Of course doubting is natural, we all do it and it is good
to an extent but I think it can easily get out of hand without us even
realising.
Learn to believe and trust yourself – this is easier said
then done but trying to is better then letting doubt take over and control your
life and decisions.
Two: Listen
By listen, I mean learning from others and listening to
yourself and what you need. When you are unsure, observe what other people do.
Don’t copy them, just learn from them – see their good choices and mistakes
then go from there – it is just like research for an assignment you get the basic ideas from others and build upon it into
make something you believe in.
Also listen
to yourself – what do you need? How much should you push? These are
important questions. Just make sure you don’t get caught up on them too much,
because I’ve been there (so if you do then skip to steps 1 and 5).
Three: Don’t ask why
When you are faced with troubling times in your life, you
deal with sadness, stress and grief. After this initial shock you begin to ask
why. Why does this happen? Don’t
ask why. It won’t help how you feel. Unless it’s a regular
everyday type issue with an answer to be found, don’t ask why. Most things in
life don’t have an explanation, things just happen so it’s best to not dwell.
Four: Don’t be afraid of setbacks
These are learning
experiences and the more you have the stronger you become. Use
them to your advantage – learn and grow from them.
Being scared of a set back I became trained to find problems, to
look for any signs of trouble
to avoid getting worse. But this made me only see the bad as I only
looked for the bad. Although I was a positive person and celebrated when I did
well with even the smallest improvements. I would compare them with the worse
times thus creating this continuous cycle of bad. The worse times even crept
into the better ones. It is important to separate them and scan the body for
good. Look for the good for a change, forget the bad.
Five: Love
Cliché as it sounds but love is important. It can come from
the people around you or how you spend your time doing the things you love. But
most importantly it should
primarily come from you. Self-love is so important. You live with
yourself every second of the day, its easier if you learn to love yourself and
every quirk you have :P Look after yourself and also spread the love around.
Kindness to others goes a long way.
Thanks for reading :) If you have any tips or comments please share them below! Hope you're having a great day! Don't forget to be fearless x
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I recently received a message of hate this blog post. I just wanted to address it to clarify a point I made. They believed happiness was an emotion rather than a state if being. Yes, happiness is an emotion but just like anything in life that is important, I believe where we can we should do some preparation and take the help we can get. You wouldn't build a house without the guidance of a blueprint, so why would you wing something so important as your own happiness? I'm not saying my post was the key to happiness, it was simply what I have found helpful. I believe being aware of the way we think can be essential to our happiness and what you do today will affect your future.
I totally agree with listening and loving Susie. Self-love, for me, is the primary reason for happiness. If we choose to accept who we really are, we then make things more easier, and we surround ourselves with happy people too. :)
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